Son's Desire To Support Family Before Marriage

2007

The desire of J's heart and reason even waited so long to marry, was because he wanted to make enough money to have a wife stay home to raise children...look what he got? She couldn't stay put...had to have part time jobs baby sitters to even do that... now you would think a woman coming from what she came from...woman having to support men...that would be a real blessing to her. 

Remember Jeremy telling me she was just like me.  haha  kinda like Bob telling my mom I was just like her...it floored her.  Well don't know what part Jeremy felt was just like me, except for her qualities of being a help to all and friendly to all.  You try to figure these things out you know it was not spiritual qualities at all.  She didn't even get baptized till moving to KY.

Well it was to her grandmother that is for sure that made it a point to talk to me at the wedding about Jeremy and Natalie, so worried Nat would make same mistake they all made having to support the men.   She didn't think Natalie knew what she had in Jeremy.  Told me at their wedding.  The family thought a lot of him.

Did I do some work...yes, took in baby sitting of neighbors, and stayed home. When had to work I worked 2^nd shift..very very limited day care...Bob was then there. When Bob lost job...I worked 2 jobs...took in sewing at home extra work... making baby forget what called but put them up over cribs for baby's to look at watch turning..Bob used to help me, as he would apply for things... oh called baby mobile I did sewing, he did stuffing... but our children were raised by us not day care...and those starting years too.

J had to go to a lady for babysitting for short period once when needed to work.. and wow this lady she was great, J loved it there, a Catholic I think but had 17 children as i recall ridiculous amount never heard of such a number.  Just until Bob got there to pick him up lived I think 8 of them at that time maybe more but in a 3 bedroom 2 story.. well lots were already grown in service etc but out of the house.

Most the time when J and Nat came to farm before marriage of course Tom would come too..but those spent most their time together, even flying kites  haha shooting always and they would have full basement to themselves only needed to come upstairs to be boys and raid the frig  hahaha.

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Joshua married a godless demon Carla

1995

Well Carla is probably tied to her soul mate...she married another godless demon.  Was she given a chance?  You bet, we took her in.  She was even given second chance with second marriage to a Jew, wonderful guy Josh really liked him.   I think Josh knew this as he wanted to include in their marriage baptism being done to both them...and marriage.  Strange request.  I said NO you were baptized by my Daddy.  So I refused it.  

Well there is nothing in this world but demons that follow man not God-Yeshua they don't even know the difference between out of the mouth of God and man, so everyone is married to demons.

Well even with their wedding, of which we paid for, just bitching from Carla, who's parents well if you can call them that...a step-dad in and out of jail and a half sibling I think in jail now.  She got sound instruction and saw living difference...and graduated barely, as PG.  She hated her real Dad, so have no clue what she was told about him...called him her biological father.

Bob felt blame they even married, he should have never taken her in was how he felt.

Even then, I was on the internet with military men.  One came to Josh's reception...username Bad2Dbone I can't remember his real name but did know it.  A Vietnam vet...had foreign wife...Worked also for Charles Schwab.  Bob was used to me laughing at IRC in the 40+ channel.  He would say back then...what are you laughing at...I would say these people on IRC.

Con came out to help with the wedding, as I had gone to Matthew's her sons.  Now this to me an interesting thing happening.  I had no daughters, didn't study them  lol  weddings were done by daughter family not son why the heck would i study that.  I didn't know her parents wouldn't pay for it till last minute.  Monica Tarr took her and her husband took all wedding photo's for them plus made their wedding cake.  Shawn one of Josh's best friends.  Well they had used to do wedding etc... but anyway not one pic of my sister at that wedding or reception...now that to me is weird.  She might have gotten pic at kitchen sink can't remember.  Well it upset Con as she was Josh's godmother.  So good reason to me...I just told her didn't know what I was doing why didn't you say something.

So I do have all these wedding pictures here, they need to go to Samantha and will give them to her.

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Saving J - Birth Josh

1975

I had wanted another child and J was getting older, well don't know their dad was to keen on the idea but that man had drive if you know what I mean..  Well I could feel myself ovulate..so knew as he was leaving for work  lol  Well he was late that day.  Told him to leave early to make up for it.

Anyway my sister then moved to Tucson, because of her husband change in service promotion I think.  She was PG too...Trent they call T is about 3 months older than Josh.  Well they had a dog they needed to get rid of...so comes to me of course.  That was a whymer riner...yellow eyes...docked tail.  So anyway found a home for him, think him not sure.

Reason I am bringing this up is because Bob's dad actually saved Jeremy's life.  Bobs dad and Bob under him of course sold real estate way out it was a drive back then but not much traffic at all and of course 70 mpr speed limit.  Well there was a built in pool at their office which was a home so Cheri came up and we went out there to be by the pool.  J was on step playing and us talking didn't see and Bob's dad saw him and ran out stepped down on the steps and grabbed him by the arm pulling him up.  So Bob's dad actually saved the childs life to me.  Interesting thing about it, is that child never choked or coughed or anything like gills??.

Well came time then for me to have Josh, by the way Bob named them both, called what they would be before ever arriving.  Chose names too.  Well for J, he wanted either Jeremiah because of the song, or Zachariah...so I said  there will be no araiah's, and went with Jeremy.  Josh we stayed same on.

Well Christmas time and have a child at home, was dialated for weeks and he didn't come.  Dr..oh you will love this name for Gyncologist...  Seaman don't know spelling.  Anyway he said he was going out of town for the holidays so someone else would be delivering him...or as I was dia-lated so long and big..he could induce labor and he would do that.  So my choice...well not all together... as J was so fast delivery, they call that a history...Bob had fear of me not making it to hospital before born.  So he wanted induced to know I would be there...fit me fine as I would be home for Christmas with J.  I want to say they started the PIT want to say they call it letters..iv to induce about 8 as prep had to be done before.  Can't remember time born..might have it...but football was going to be on at 11 and Bob wanted it over by then  lol  Well it was fast...Dr would sit beside me with hand on tummy and tell me when I had a good pain  lol   I would say  was it??  Dr also asked Bob if he wanted to come in and watch..but they weren't suppose to allow that without lamaz or whatever called.  He said NO

Josh they said, as he has one eye a little smaller than other...said reaction in that eye to sulfur they put in?  He was also jaundices so yellow had to be under lights.  He also don't know still maybe don't pay attention to it any longer...but he had one eye that turned more green like his dads and one eye blue like mine.  Now J was blue eyed till oh about 9 maybe his eyes turned more toward a green cast but depends what he wears.  Bob's mom said he was blue eyed till change also.

Josh was a colicky baby...I was up night after night trying to keep him quiet so Bob could sleep with going to work.  So would go as far away in house I could with him.

Bob did say he was glad I did choose to have another child then.

 

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AZ Horses

1974 -1976

 I seem to be talking a lot about horses on the family things today  haha.  Well Bob knew my heart for horses too for goodness sakes, even always watching programs about them.  He told me they were not a good thing to much maintenance and I needed to get a motor cycle  lol

Well before we married I was staying with him and his room mate Skip Metcalf I believe, anyway Skip I called him Skipper  haha  he liked horse back riding so we would sometimes go together.  So Bob knew my love for them.

Well on Sesame St...lots of us were young mothers with children and we all got to know each other.  Even have the home parties like tupperware things like that so even gathered for those type things.  Susie Morris was one of my friends too, her sons close in age.  She and her husband it was interesting to me, each were only children.  Anyway they had land out in Chandler Heights area I believe it was, where they had horses, both used to have them I think.  The land eventually they wanted to build a house on.  Susie knew my heart for horses too, she used to ask me to go riding with her, so would get to go that way, she taught me a lot.  I always rode Dot, who was an appaloosa that never spotted out.  So red with black mane and tail.  Her horse was white can't think of the breed.  We would have adventures...she would even take me to a barrel racing area and we messed with that.  Taught me how to clean hoofs just everything she knew.

Well she offered me that horse for use at any time I wanted on my own even if all I would do is pay the feed.. 15.00 a month.  Bob refused me to do even this.  She wasn't asking me to pay anything else, no medical, shoeing, whatever just the feed.  So I was not able to do that.

So I thought good thing the Lord has horses  lol  cause I will have one there  lol  and be young enough to ride.

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J Lit Bed On Fire

1975 about

 

 Well Jeremy was little, so this was before his brother was born.  His dad smoked and used a Zippo type lighter, that you fill with fuel.  I never liked those, I was a bic person...plus they had child protective things on them so children couldn't light them.

A neighbor was over visiting we were in the living room talking.  Jeremy had gotten a hold of one of his dad's lighters and I didn't know it.  His dad had several.  Well he had gone back in his bedroom between the bed and the wall as he knew he was not to touch these things.  He lit that thing under the bed as to no one would see him...and lit the bed on fire.  Thank the Lord, that child had sense enough, and yelled for me and the neighbor and I got pitchers of water to put it out.  Well the under side of that box spring had a nylon dust cover on it so it actually didn't cause the bed to be on fire.  It melted all this nylon burning..dripping on the carpet burning the carpet, so several areas of black melted carpet even.

I was so upset about it, as to me this was his dad's fault for leaving his things out.  I called him at work and told him he would be the one to have to deal with it.  Well just doing that made Jeremy worry all day  haha like what was going to happen.  I did make him stay in his room then...till he saw his dad.

I don't even remember what his dad did...what I do remember is the impact it had on that child.  That house became a rental for about 2 years..or so we lived in 2 different other new homes moving from one end of town to the other.  Went to Glendale, then sold and went to Mesa then back to Sesame St. our first home.  Well we never did replace that carpet for it being a rental as a bed would cover the spot and we were not about to put new carpet into a house that could get torn up.

When we went to move back to that place is when we heard about it from Jeremy.  He did not want to be in that bedroom with melted carpet.  So you just know it made an impact on him.  We did put all new carpet in that house and I personally refused to move back to it unless a dishwasher was put in it as it had none.  So those were my requirements.  I did get a dishwasher then.  After being spoiled with 2 other houses, I did not feel that was asking much to downsize.

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Learning To Stand and Heart

 1978 about

On the Jacobs house side of the family, there was no order whatsoever compared to how I was raised, so this site will reflect that as it will be memories as they pop into my head and as far as any order I had thought well I would try to put the year closest to memory these things were even done, should my sons ever want to see more an order of things. You know a way to sort should they want date order of things haha.

I couldn't stand cry babies and tattle tail children...I wasn't raised that way. If you wanted something to cry about in our house as a child my Daddy would for sure give you something haha that of course meant a spanking with the belt as Daddy said never hit a child with your hands, the hands were for Love. I chose to try a different way first. I remember Jeremy, of course being an only child then, trying to make that child stand up for himself rather than come crying whining to me about things. So he was 2 ½ maybe, only child he could play outside with was a next door neighbor where I could keep eye on him, would make them stay on sidewalk between the houses. This child older and a Morman never forget that....you know ones that are supposed to be so great at raising families.

Their child would take J's toys away from him and take them back over to where J's was not permitted to go...so he would come to me. Well pushed him to stand up for himself, to fight back, or not play with the child were his options. He wanted to play with someone of course, so stood up for himself and went after that boy, hitting and getting his stuff back taken from him. That child went home crying about it and boy I was ready if she the mother even came to me about it. How did I know? I watched!! That child never took another toy from my son again, he was afraid of him. That was how I pushed J.

Once we had Josh, of course 3 ½ years almost 4 between them, but Josh was tall, a battle in itself playing with other children as their parents expected more out of that child than age really...so I would have to stand against that with neighbors. Now to get Josh to stand for himself not be crying to me all the time about his brother, I purchased those blow up punching gloves...got a red set and blue set. Let the boys punch each other haha Of course I kept an eye on it...but it taught 2 things really, not only for Josh to stand, but J to have a heart for his little brother...not really wanting to hurt him as he was so much younger. Well it worked haha thank the Lord for that.

I would take the children over to my friends house Becky and her children before this of course, and her and I both used to tell those children when they complained...first question we would ask “is there blood?” Then we don't want to hear about it we would tell them. So she was same as I in these things too. Those children would go right back and get along haha

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Attack Cats and White Rat

 Well I will tell the story of how we met but thoughts of meeting Bob's family the first time is what happened to come to me so thought I would write about it while in my mind.  There is a big age difference between Bob and his little brother Paul.  So Bob 22 would put Paul at 12, so just a kid.

Bob and I stayed there living down in the bottom floor of tri-level house, there were 2 bedrooms down there...believe this was after I had come back to AZ after meeting.  

Well it was the critters in that house that come to mind.  Paul had this attack cat, I mean that thing you walk by steps or would like hide attack you.  Also had a big white rat I think as a pet.  Never in my life did I ever hear of an attack cat.  It would even attack him.  Well who the heck keeps a cat like that?   You were leery to walk anywhere with that cat. Like I was on high alert all the time.  Paul also had in the basement a rat caged of course, but what a combo  big white one I think.

Funny thing is that my sister Cheri had one of them cats too.  Well she never had dogs just cats.  Well family on both sides with attack cats??  

 So does that mean the cats are restless tonight?

Other critter was a dog in the house Poncho think name..mut but big dog had shepherd in him too i think.  That dog used to be Susan's Bob's sister, who was married to Pedro Jane they had son Daryl, she had gotten PG before marriage.  Now don't know why that dog was at Bob's parents as to what happened.  That dog did end up needing to be put down because of cancer in the nose.

Having our GSD Lacy though after married of course but just the memory of her getting cancer...well she got bad, took her to vet..did snapping at my grandaughter, bit at one of Bob's work friends just not normal behavior for her.  She had cancer...so wondering if that has to do with dogs that might all the sudden see changes in.

Just thoughts on mind so typed them, critters that attack.

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